YOU Decide

Decisions, decisions, decisions….

What to do?

YOU have to decide if you are to be a good person, a kind person, an empathetic person, or if you are going to be a bad one.

What would you rather be? A bully or a child who is bullied?

Neither are good things. Neither will make you happy. Both will have sad consequences.

But, what exactly IS a bully?

A bully is someone who REPEATEDLY  does or says something to make you feel very bad, very sad, very angry, or hurts you in a physical way, on purpose.

Occasional disagreements with classmates or friends are a normal part of childhood, even fights are normal. But there is a big difference with  this and bullying someone.

Bullying someone leaves a deep scar in the person’s heart. Calling someone a bully when he is not can also leave a deep scar.

Words are very powerful, sometimes even more powerful than weapons. Words ARE weapons when used to hurt someone. But words can also be uplifting and make you feel wonderful. It all depends on what words you use and how you use them.

When I was sixteen years old and in my first year of college, I used to go to cafeteria for lunch. There were two girls there who used to laugh at me the moment they saw me. I chose to ignore them. I didn’t even look at them. They pointed me out to other students and laughed. Well, after five or six times they just got tired of doing it and stopped, because they didn’t get the reaction from me that they were looking for.

After ten years I met one of them at a party and she told me this: “Lilian, do you remember how Myrna and I used to laugh at you? Well, I want to apologize and tell you that I admire you so much for ignoring us. We were just jealous of you, that is why we did it. I admire the fact that you walked by without paying the least  attention to us. ”

When someone tries to hurt you in any way decide if you want to  to stay or to leave, and just DO IT. Don’t give power to the other person to make you feel less, never!

One thing that is very important and that you should think seriously about is to NEVER say someone is a bully when he is not. If you do, YOU can become the bully yourself!

Lying is never the right thing to do. Always be honest. Truth will triumph above all else in every situation, not only when you’re a child, but all through your life.

 

 

 

 

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